When Life Feels Messy

encouraging words by artist, Jennifer Frith

I took this picture of my dad and step-mom on their wedding day. It makes me happy. πŸš—

When I was 16 and my parents divorced, I was pretty devastated. I don’t know of any kid who leaps for joy when their parents split.

But I see now that beauty can come from brokenness.

What I've learned from my own experiences (and I'm still learning...still totally learning), is that life doesn't always turn out the way you think it should. In fact, sometimes it's messy, disappointing, painful, frustrating, and straight-up hard.

But God promises good things to those He loves:

"'For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, β€œplans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." - Jeremiah 29

Eventually dark clouds of disappointment sweep away, sunny days return, and you're wiser than you were before. πŸŒ…

If your life seems messy right now, I hope you let go (maybe just a little) and let God work all things together for good.

encouraging words by Jennifer Frith, artist
encouraging words by Jennifer Frith, artist
encouraging words by Jennifer Frith, artist

  • How has God worked out some Good Things in your life?

  • How are you wiser now than you were before a 'β€œmessy event”?

  • In what ways have you developed a deeper capacity for joy and love after a hurt or disappointment?

On Being "Stuck"

Jennifer Frith, Artist

Hi. πŸ‘‹   I've not created anything new in the past couple of months. ...Boredom, ennui, creative block ... I don't know what the heck to call it. 

But instead of continuing to resist it or worry that I'll be stuck in this paralyzing dark hole of "the creative blahs" forever, I'm going to just relax and ride it out.  That's what you're supposed to do when you're stuck in quicksand, after all.

Sometimes when we label ourselves as "creators" or makers or artists or moms or workers or whatever, we can really mess ourselves up in the head when we fall short of the expectations we put on ourselves.

But I'm more than "what I do", and you are too. ✌

And sometimes resting, stepping back, and looking at ourselves as whole people instead of just a role we fill is one of the healthiest things we can do.

And that's all I have to say about that. 🎨  I'll be back to making art soon.

What do YOU do when you're stuck in the deep dark muck of creative despair?

Jennifer Frith, Artist

Originally posted on my Instagram account.  To all of those who replied there, thank you! β™‘

Look Up

photo by Jennifer Frith

I took a break from work and journaling and other such things and visited my dad's farm in New York earlier this weekend.

I don't know about you, but hearing about the world's turmoil causes an uptick in anxiety for me.  But whenever I'm in nature -- or if just stop to look up at the sky -- it calms it down for me, at least for a little while.  It makes me feel smaller... surrendered.  It reminds me of the bigger picture and a greater plan.

I hope you get a chance to pause; lay down your worries, heartaches, and unknowns; and look up at the sky too.

originally posted on my instagram account

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By the way, I'm considering starting a new collaborative journaling course themed, "You Matter".  If you're interested in participating, drop me a line!  I'd love to hear from you.