Permission Slips

I've been fortunate to experience personalized coaching sessions with Jane Ammon over the past few weeks.  She is helping me to develop my creative voice, and I absolutely look forward to her sessions every week.

My very first homework assignment was for me to write down the "shoulds" that I or other people tell myself.

While thinking about them, I realized that my head & heart is filled with all sorts of "shoulds".

For instance....

Jenny, 
  - You should be more tight-laced & reserved. 
  - You should be cold and firm. 
  - You should be everything to everybody. 
  - You should be constantly on the go and busy-busy-busy. 
  - You should answer your mom's 5 phone calls a day. 
  - You shouldn't be angry when your mom calls you 5 times a day. 
  - You should only see things as they are, instead of what they could be. 
  - You shouldn't be so emotional. 
  - You shouldn't be so eager. 
  - You shouldn't be seen.
How cruel, right?

To answer the shoulds, she then had me create permission slips for myself.  These slips could simply be a few words, or elaborate pieces of artwork if I wanted.  I decided to illustrate them on unused scraps of watercolor paper.

I keep the slips in places where I need the reminders the most.

Permission Slips - Jennifer Frith
Permission Slips - Jennifer Frith
Permission Slips - Jennifer Frith
Permission Slips - Jennifer Frith
Permission Slips - Jennifer Frith
Permission Slips - Jennifer Frith
Permission Slips - Jennifer Frith

These creativity sessions with her are blowing me away.  

As Jane explains, when you embrace yourself & choose to be kind to you, 
you can be that much better of a mom, wife, friend, business-woman, etc.

I love that.

In the words of Jane, 
"Don't let people should all over you."

. . .

What "shoulds" do you hear,
& what would be on your permission slips?