I've been fortunate to experience personalized coaching sessions with Jane Ammon over the past few weeks. She is helping me to develop my creative voice, and I absolutely look forward to her sessions every week.
My very first homework assignment was for me to write down the "shoulds" that I or other people tell myself.
While thinking about them, I realized that my head & heart is filled with all sorts of "shoulds".
- You should be more tight-laced & reserved.
- You should be cold and firm.
- You should be everything to everybody.
- You should be constantly on the go and busy-busy-busy.
- You should answer your mom's 5 phone calls a day.
- You shouldn't be angry when your mom calls you 5 times a day.
- You should only see things as they are, instead of what they could be.
- You shouldn't be so emotional.
- You shouldn't be so eager.
- You shouldn't be seen.
How cruel, right?
To answer the shoulds, she then had me create permission slips for myself. These slips could simply be a few words, or elaborate pieces of artwork if I wanted. I decided to illustrate them on unused scraps of watercolor paper.
I keep the slips in places where I need the reminders the most.
These creativity sessions with her are blowing me away.
As Jane explains, when you embrace yourself & choose to be kind to you,
you can be that much better of a mom, wife, friend, business-woman, etc.
I love that.
In the words of Jane,
"Don't let people should all over you."
. . .
What "shoulds" do you hear,
& what would be on your permission slips?